Masturbation. Self-love. Tickle your pickle. Diddle yourself. Feelin’ myself. Jerking off. So many names for masturbation—also known as touching your body (particularly your sexual organs) for pleasure. Luckily we have been able to debunk a lot of myths that used to circulate about feelin’ yourself. We know that masturbation, for example, does not cause blindness. Whew!

Condoms are a magnificent way to prevent unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs). But they must be used consistently AND correctly. As the U.S. Centers for Disease Control (CDC) says: “The failure of condoms to protect against STD/HIV transmission usually results from inconsistent or incorrect use, rather than product failure.”

Whether you’re in a relationship, in the dating scene or somewhere in between, talking about condoms is not always easy. So, here’s some tips and pointers to help start a condom conversation.